【Creative Parenting Online Sharing Series】Session 2│ Presenter: Mrs. Gloria Chan
Online Creative Parenting Sharing Session 2 – LIVE on YouTube
Jan 21, 2021 (Thursday), Time: 7:30pm to 9:00pm
- Moderator: Founder of CreativeKids, Angie, who recently completed a PhD in design education for children
- Guest Presenter: Mrs. Gloria Chan (Former Principal of Kau Yan School)
The session is conducted in Cantonese. Watch in the player below, or click here
Summary (Part 1):
Gloria refers to some psychological principles that can help parents understand the idea of “positive parenting”:
Dr. Martin E.P. Seligman introduced the five pillars of well-being in his PERMA theory – “Positive Emotion, Engagement, Relationships, Meaning, and Accomplishment”. This allows children to develop positively in five areas, with more inner strength to face obstacles.
In her book, “The Strength Switch”, Professor Lea Waters AM, PhD, shows the power of focusing on the strength of children, in parenting. She also developed an evidence-based framework, SEARCH, which consists of six pathways to well-being – “Strengths, Emotional Management, Attention & Awareness, Relationships, Coping and Habits & Goals”.
Gloria points out that, although there will likely be a distance between the theories on paper, and in real-life implementations, it is beneficial for parents to at least know some good parenting concepts. “When we as parents and educators act in the best interest of children, children will have a place for us in their hearts”, Gloria speaks from her personal experience maintaining great relationships with students even after her retirement.
In contrast, some parenting practices we are used to, may seem to offer instant, spot-on solutions, but would not work in the long run.
In a high-stress city like Hong Kong, many parents live in fear and anxiety. Hence, Mindful Parenting is a great reminder. In particular, it is important to have self-compassion – to take care of oneself, and to give oneself “permission to be human”. Glora stresses that parents need to first treat themselves well, to be able to appreciate their child.
“In parenting, there are often regrets and ‘if only’s. Yet, imperfection is, in a way, the nature of life. Maybe it is how we can learn to be humble, to grow, and to depend on God as a Christian.”
She highlights another aspect of mindful parenting – “to be aware of your child’s unique nature, feelings and needs”, according to Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn who founded Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR). As part of a learning activity of a mindfulness class, Gloria had the rare chance to hold her daughter (in her 20s) and look closely at her. “I realized, ‘Oh, my daughter is actually quite beautiful, with big eyes’.” she shares.
Resources mentioned in the Session
(In order of appearance)
- PERMA theory
- The Strength Switch by Lea Waters AM, PhD
- SEARCH framework
- Choice Theory: A New Psychology of Personal Freedom by William Glasser, M.D.
- Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR)
- Mindfulness-based cognitive therapy (MBCT)
- Smiling Mind
- Mindful Parenting by Susan Bögels
Note: This list is compiled based on the content of the guest speaker’s sharing. CreativeKids does not affiliate with any parties mentioned on these webpages.